Many of you have asked us how to articulate God’s truth on a variety of topics when everyone around you is arguing a secular worldview. We want to equip you with the right stuff! There’s actually a fancy name for it: Apologetics. It means knowing what you believe, why you believe it and being able to verbalize it.

We want to make it as easy as possible for you. So we’re going to present this in script form. We’ll give you the arguments that your classmates or friends may be verbalizing, and we’ll show you how to counter that by giving you a solid response that you can memorize.

The Homosexual Agenda
Important: As Christians, we need to be kind and loving toward people who are living in ways that are not good for them. We also need to be careful about the language we use. We should not harass or bully anyone!

Argument: Homosexuals are being discriminated against. They deserve protected class status.

Your response: Let’s start by talking about what discrimination really is. African-Americans have a history of being discriminated against. The gay community may be criticized—as are also the Christian community, mothers who breast-feed their babies on the job, citizens who believe in gun control, citizens who are against gun control and TV evangelists—but no, they’re not discriminated against. There’s a big difference! How, specifically, are they being discriminated against?

Argument: Homosexuals are discriminated against all the time. For instance, they can’t rent a certain apartment or buy the house they want because of their sexuality.

Your response: Homosexuals, like other citizens, have the right to purchase or rent housing of their choice regardless of sexual orientation. Again, you’re using the term discrimination, but you’re not using it correctly. Let me give you some examples: Have homosexuals ever been denied the right to vote? Have they ever experienced legal segregation? Have public laws ever denied them access to specific drinking fountains, restrooms or restaurants? Is the gay community living in a ghetto due to suffering economic hardship as a class because of discrimination? No. That would be discrimination.

Argument: Homosexuals suffer constant harassment because of their sexual preference.

Your response: While no one should be verbally or physically abused, the solution isn’t found in granting a minority status or protected class status to the gay community. That’s like saying blondes should have a protected class status because people are always calling them “dumb blondes.” Should left-handed people also receive protected class status? The real solution to verbal and physical abuse and sexual harassment is simply to use the laws that are already in effect.

Argument: It’s perfectly normal to teach teens that homosexuality is an alternative lifestyle. After all, homosexuals were born that way—just as heterosexuals were born heterosexuals.

Your response: Even pro-gay researchers admit that no one is born gay. Sexual orientation is complicated and includes a person’s identity, experiences, responses and actions. Genetics alone can’t account for homosexuality—or any other sexual orientation.

Even if people are “born gay,” which we don’t believe, we’d still need to ask, “Is this the way people were designed to be?” It seems pretty clear—biologically, let alone from a biblical view—that a man and woman were designed to fit together sexually.

We’d also need to ask, “Is this behavior healthy and good?” Homosexual behavior has a number of health risks associated with it. I’m fine teaching that truth to teens.

If we teach homosexuality as an alternative lifestyle, then why not offer substance abuse and gluttony as viable alternative lifestyles and practices as well?

Argument: Many homosexuals say, “I’ve been this way since I can remember.” That proves they were born homosexual.

Your response: As long as I can remember, I’ve lived in the house on 34 Central Ave. But that doesn’t mean I was born there! When people say, “I’ve been this way since I can remember,” it means exactly that—as long as they can remember. That doesn’t include being born. No one can remember his birth.

What’s really meant by that statement is that they have “felt different” or experienced different feelings for as long as they can remember. This doesn’t automatically make someone homosexual. He could be describing years in his childhood in which he felt alone, rejected, made fun of or alienated by people who should have loved him. Again, none of these feelings make him homosexual. However, how he chooses to act on his feelings is a choice. So it’s in this sense that homosexual behavior is a choice.

Argument: Homosexuality is not a choice. People wouldn’t simply choose to be attracted to the same sex.

Your response: You’re right. No one chooses his or her attractions. But the fact that I have certain attractions doesn’t mean that those attractions are good and healthy. We have to ask ourselves, “How do I decide which feelings/attractions/desires are good and healthy? What are my standards?” And then we have to decide whether or not to act on our attractions and desires.

Sometimes I’ll feel like stealing something from a store. Do I act on my feeling? Why not?

Argument: God is love, therefore, He has to love the gay person! And how could He send someone He loves to hell?

Your response: Yes, according to the Bible, God is love. But the Bible also describes God as holy, just, perfect and righteous. As a perfect God, He can’t tolerate sin. That’s why He gave His only Son, Jesus Christ, to die for our sins; that’s how much He does love gay people! Because our perfect and holy God can’t tolerate sin, He made an escape route for anyone (gay or straight) to repent of his or her sins, accept Christ’s forgiveness and live in obedience to Him. And anyone who does this can spend eternity with God. But those who reject Him—those who refuse to repent of their sin—will be separated from Him in hell.

So God never sends anyone to hell. He loves us so much that He allows us freedom of choice. Whether a person feels attraction for the same sex or the opposite sex, she can accept God’s forgiveness and live in obedience to Him, or he can choose to reject God and live in disobedience to Him. The choice is ours.

Argument: I believe I can live a homosexual lifestyle and still be a Christian.

Your response: First, you can also believe you’re a professional tennis player, but simply because you believe something doesn’t make it so. Second, what’s your definition of a Christian?

Argument: Someone who believes in God.

Your response: Even Satan believes in God. It takes a lot more than intellectual belief to be a Christian. How does God’s Word describe someone who’s a Christian?

First John 2:3-6 says: “And how can we be sure that we belong to him? By looking within ourselves: are we really trying to do what he wants us to? Someone may say. ‘I am a Christian; I am on my way to heaven; I belong to Christ.’ But if he doesn’t do what Christ tells him to, he is a liar. But those who do what Christ tells them to will learn to love God more and more. That is the way to know whether or not you are a Christian. Anyone who says he is a Christian should live as Christ did” (The Living Bible).

And Jesus himself said in Matthew 7:21: “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”


 It seems to me that the acid test of Christianity is doing the will of our Father. Christ goes on to say in John 14:15 that if we love Him, we’ll obey Him.

Argument: Maybe a homosexual lifestyle isn’t sin. Maybe you just think it is. How can I know what’s true?

Your response: What is truth? That’s a great question! In fact, people have been asking that for years! Even Pilate, the man who condemned Christ to die a horrific death by crucifixion, asked that same question. Fortunately, Jesus himself gave us the answer in John 14:6. He said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

The Bible describes God and Jesus as being perfect. That means everything they say is true. They can’t lie, because they’re the embodiment of Truth. If they could lie, they wouldn’t be perfect or true. The Bible is God’s Word; therefore, the Bible is also true. And the Bible makes it very clear, in both the Old and New Testaments, that homosexual activity is sin. (Scripture references listed at the end of this article.)

While it’s not a sin to be tempted in the area of homosexuality—or any other area—it does become sin when we choose to participate. Someone may struggle with homosexual temptations his entire life, but He can still obey God by not acting on those temptations.

Similarly, a heterosexual single may struggle his entire life with sexual temptation. But through the power of the Holy Spirit, he can say no to sexual involvement and remain obedient to God.

So can one who deliberately and consistently chooses to continue living against God’s will call himself a Christian? Not according to how I interpret the Scriptures. But I’m not God, and thankfully, I’m not the judge. When gambling with heaven and hell, however, it’s certainly not a bet I’d want to take.

Argument: Back to love. If God is love, Christians should love homosexuals.

Your response: You’re right! But are you equating love with affirmation? I love God; therefore, I also love all people—whether they’re Christians or not and whether they’re gay or straight, white or black, handicapped or gifted. But loving someone doesn’t mean I have to affirm a sinful lifestyle and say that it’s no longer sinful. Being “tolerant” isn’t always a virtue. Tolerance applies to people but not to sin.

Argument: How can I know what’s true?

Your response: Check out Matthew 19 and Mark 10. Jesus’ words about God’s created intention and order are extremely important. Homosexuality goes against what God intended, and Jesus affirmed marriage between a man and a woman.

Your bottom line: I’m a Christian. This means that I’ve asked Christ to forgive my sins, and I’ve accepted His forgiveness. I love God, and I strive to live in obedience to Him. I believe the Bible is true, and I choose to live my life according to the principles He’s given me through His Word.

God isn’t a gay-basher, and neither am I. I want to reach out to the gay community in love and show them that God offers forgiveness and restoration. While I don’t condone the choices they have made in response to the temptations they have experienced, my prayer is that they’ll see hope, love and Christ’s peace through my actions.

How Does the Bible Deal With Homosexuality?
• Genesis 1 through 3 are wonderful passages outlining God’s ideal for marriage between a man and a woman—especially 1:26-31 and 2:18-25. This clearly outlines God’s intended purpose.

• It’s absolutely forbidden. (Leviticus 18:22; 20:13)

• Without repentance and Christ’s forgiveness, homosexual sin will be punished. (Leviticus 18:29)

• Homosexual practices are sinful in God’s eyes. Homosexual practices—as well as many other sins—are signs that a culture has taken its eyes off of God and turned toward idols. (Romans 1:18-32)

• God’s love, grace and mercy applies to homosexuals, too. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

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