1. Your friend is upset because she just failed a major test. You
a. sit with her all afternoon, rubbing her shoulders while she cries.
b. buy her favorite candy for her as a reward for trying.
c. offer to help her study for her re-take.

2. For your friend’s birthday you
a. spend hours choosing the perfect gift, then spend almost as much time finding just the right words for her card.
b. break out all of your crafting supplies to decorate her locker. Everyone needs to know it’s her birthday!
c. offer to help her choose her party outfit, make the guest list and print invites.

3. You overhear someone saying mean things about your friend behind her back. You
a. call her as soon as school gets out to comfort her, since she’s bound to have heard the rumors by then.
b. send her IMs and e-mails all afternoon and night so she knows she’s the best friend ever.
c. immediately tell the gossipers to mind their own business.

4. While ice skating your friend falls and hurts her leg. You
a. grab some hot chocolate for both of you and keep her company on a bench.
b. let her rest for five minutes, then urge her to come back out on the ice. Everyone falls while skating, but you’ve got to get gliding again!
c. help her get off the ice and change back into her boots. Then you check her leg every few minutes for swelling.

5. Your friend gets the flu and is stuck in bed all week. You
a. bring her a get-well card and a box of herbal tea to help her get better.
b. make a huge “You’ll be feeling better soon!” card for her and deliver it with a bunch of balloons.
c. call every day to see if she needs any work from school or medicine from the store.

Mostly A’s: Nurturing Friend
You do whatever it takes to help your friend feel better. You want her to know exactly how special she is to you. You can accomplish this by sending cards or e-mails, making gifts specifically for her or just keeping your ear open when she needs one. But remember, sometimes your friend may need some space. Don’t take it personally.

Mostly B’s: Encouraging Friend
It saddens you to see a friend discouraged, so you put your efforts into lifting her spirits. You can do this by sending encouraging Scripture passages in a card or e-mail, making or buying a friend’s favorite dessert or taking her someplace fun. It’s important to remember that sometimes you need to feel down before you feel happy again. Give your friend some time if she’s not immediately receptive to your encouragement.

Mostly C’s: Helping Friend
You show your friendship through filling needs. Your friends know if something is wrong, you’ll try your best to fix it. You can use your helpfulness by working with your friend on homework (but remember to stay on task) or teaching her a new hobby. But don’t be offended if your friend doesn’t want your help all the time; sometimes she may want to try things herself.