Frustrated

Dear Frustrated:
I’m assuming that you think God isn’t there because things have gone from bad to worse. It is frustrating to pray for things to get better and only see them get worse.

But guess what—your present circumstance isn’t an accurate indicator of God’s presence. OK, so what is an accurate indicator? His words. So let’s check them out.

“And surely I am with you always, until the very end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20)

“I will not leave you as orphans.” (John 14:18)

“So do not fear, for I am with you.” (Isaiah 41:10)

“I the LORD will answer them; I, the God of Israel, will not forsake them.” (Isaiah 41:17)

God never promised to make things easy for us. In fact, He was very clear to say that we’d have many trials while on the earth. I’m sorry this is a hard time for you, but keep praying! Continue to lean on God. Even when you don’t feel Him, and even when things go from bad to worse, He’s walking through it with you and offering You His strength.

Dear Susie:
I have a friend who touches me inappropriately. First it’s a waist hug, then it’s on to something more obscene. He makes me believe that he’s just playing, but I feel harassed. I’m also sad, because he’s my friend, so why would he do that? I don’t want to tell an adult, because I’ll feel weird explaining it. What should I do?

Bothered

Dear Bothered:
You’re right in feeling harassed, because that’s exactly what’s happening. Anyone who touches you inappropriately is not a friend. Have you ever told him to knock it off? If not, you need to! He may be interpreting your silence as permission to continue.

I understand why you’d feel uncomfortable talking with an adult about this, but you really need to. This guy needs help in learning appropriate behavior with the opposite sex. And you deserve a genuine friend. So please tell your parents, your youth pastor, a teacher—someone who can help you as well as make sure he backs off!

Dear Susie:
I used to be such a good kid, and I was totally on fire for Christ. Lately though, I’ve been going down the wrong road. I keep partying and doing other things I know I shouldn’t. If I don’t drink, is it wrong to go to the parties?

I want to stop living this way, but I’m social! I love to enjoy myself around a lot of people, and that’s mainly why I go to parties. I want to turn my life around, but I don’t want to give up parties. Is that wrong?

Trapped

Dear Trapped:
Some people renew themselves by being alone; others receive energy by being with people. You’re definitely a people-person!

But your need to be with people shouldn’t determine where you go. You can get your people fix in a great youth group, on the volleyball team, being in a band. There are hundreds of ways you can be with people without going to a questionable party.

You asked if I think it’s OK for you to go to parties where alcohol is being served. I think that’s unwise—even if you don’t drink. Why place yourself next to the temptation? You’ve already stated that you want to change and head the opposite direction. To do that will require changing some of your habits . . . such as partying and the friends who are dragging you down.

I’m excited you want to turn your life around, but you can’t do that without making some changes. In other words, you’re going to have to let go of the things that are messing you up. You can’t have both; you can’t change your lifestyle without altering your actions.

This may take some accountability. Find an exciting youth group to plug into, and make some Christian friends who will help you strengthen your relationship with Christ. I’m excited for the future God has for you.